Saturday, June 3, 2017

As you recall

People seem to remember things in a way that makes them look good. Some do this more than others. It's not entirely a bad thing. As Eliot said, "humankind cannot bear very much reality." But it can have unfortunate effects. Put yourself in the center too much and it becomes impossible to appreciate what others see.

One red flag? Heavy reliance on "Then I sad/So I said" punch lines. I've heard people recount conversations they had with me, and the way they tell it I didn't say anything, or just set them up to deliver a zinger. Everybody likes having a "drop the mic" moment, but that's not all of what life is.

All at once, by the way, cool nights are something to look forward to, not just something we're stuck with.


susan said...

After thinking about this for a little while I remembered the much quoted line by Sartre saying, 'Hell is other people'. Not knowing much about the man, other than the fact he was a famous existentialist, I looked to see what I could find about the origin and came across this interesting post. You might find the writer's explanation of the source as intriguing as I did.

“But what can a decent man speak of with most pleasure?
Answer: Of himself.
Well, so I will talk about myself.”
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Ben said...

That's an interesting link. I haven't mastered the whole thing, but he expands well on what Sartre meant. Sartre was I'm sure a good philosopher and might have something going for him as a dramatist as well. The one novel by him I read didn't thrill me.

Well, it's nice to know that if Dostoyefsky were to come back, he wouldn't be completely flummoxed by the people he suddenly faced, i.e. us. Of course they call it "human nature" for a reason.